Family "issues"

 It is clear from the first few chapters that Alison and her father did not have a good relationship. Even at a young age, Alison as well as her brothers felt that their father was way to controlling, (somewhat bossy like), and unexpressive toward his wife and children. The first chapter Alison discusses what kind of father Bruce Bechdel was and how he treated his family. According to Alison it is either her father’s way or no way at all. For example Alison explains how her family purchased an old house that was built in 1867, and when they first bought it was in need of some help. Alison stated how her father could fix anything she says “my father could spin garbage into gold,” (Bechdel, 6). It is clear that her father had a “knack” for interior design. According to Alison her father was not happy with pretty much most of his life, such as his job, she stated that his true passion was craftsman’s work and not an English teacher. It seems from what I have read that Bruce was fight some serious demons, and he seems to be taking it out on his family. Alison and her brothers never received affection of any kind from their father, for example, Alison explains how tried to show her love for her father by giving him a kiss, but because her family has little experience with affection, she ended up giving him a kiss on the hand, (pg.19). Alison was completely mortified by the gesture; she was full of embarrassment because she did not receive a gesture back or did not show any affection from her father. The uncertainty of father continued throughout her life, but once her father had died is when she really started questioning her life as well as trying to figure out her father's life as well. In the end once her father was gone, her and her brothers felt some type of relief, they were free from his reins. “It could be argued that death is inherently absurd, and that grinning is not necessarily an inappropriate response,” (Bechdel, 47). As I continue to read, I hope to better understand what her father was going through, why their relationship was the way it was, and will she feel any different after receiving answers as to “why?”