The Bad Boy

            After reading Bad Boys, as well as Dear Rhianna it is clear that most young girls seem to fall in love with the “bad boy”, or the wrong person. And when these young girls get into these bad relationships they will find it very difficult to get out of such relationships. The story of the girl in Bad Boys seemed like she was trying to find herself, she did want to be what her mother wanted her to be. It seems as though she got a rush, found it dangerous by dating the bad boy, because it is opposite of what her mother wants of her. Though to me it seems as if she dating this guy because he is just as troubled as she is, it is someone she can almost relate too. Most girls find it “cool” in a way to date the bad boy, and I think by these girls dating the bad boy they are experiencing something deeper within themselves. Most of these relationships will end up in a domestic violence situation and will find it hard to leave their significant others. For example, in the story of Dear Rhianna, where she was in a domestic violence situation, but unlike most girls she was able to get out. For the girl in the story, she feels that there is nothing wrong with being hit or verbal abused by her boyfriend. She sees it has if it is her fault that he is like the way he is. She writes, “I don’t know about you, but I’m not perfect, I’m naggy and I complain, well that’s what Brad tells me.” No girl of any age deserves to be talk to like that. See what girls do not understand is that no guy is worth being hit over, and that it is never their faults. In most domestic violence cases, one of the two parties who might have experienced domestic violence in some way, meaning that they may have witnessed their mothers or even fathers being abused in some way. For example, the girl in the story says, “and sometimes he hurts her and then she gets meaner and we all just got to our rooms and pretend we don’t hear.” This shows that she is witnessing her father beat her mother, then her mother doing the same. It seems as though it is normal in her life.  What gets about this girl in the story is that she listens to her father, when he says, “My dad says someone’s always asking for it.” Clearly there is something deeper going on with her own father, and what she is witnessing among her parents she believes is okay for her boyfriend to do the same. When in reality it is not okay, because most domestic violence cases can end up very badly, without the proper help then most girls will not get out like Rhianna did so bravely. She was a smart girl. These girls need to realize that they cannot be afraid to tell someone if they have been physically or verbally abused, and that they are people out there willing to help and trying to stop the violence.